Get It Together

Reading something like this makes me angry, sad, disappointed, and even more aware that young girls and women these days just don't know how much they are worth. I know that the phrase, "No body is worth fighting over" is familiar to most and maybe even a little trite but that doesn't make it any less valid than it has always been. I keep wondering when women will see that once the fight is over and the damage has been done, he still has maintained control of the upper hand. He still cheated, he still disrespected both women, and he still has the option to choose either or both women. In the end all that exists are injured bodies and broken emotional states. In this case I wonder where the guidance that these girls so desperately needed was.

Where were the parents that were supposed to tell them that they were special and beautiful already and how neither of them needed some boy to validate that? Where were the teachers, tutors, administrators, clergymen, and again, the parents who should have been encouraging these girls to be into schoolbooks instead of being worried about some silly boy? Where were the role models for this boy to encourage him to do the same? Where was the person who should've told him that the real test of a man is not how many girls fight over him but instead the boundlessness of his integrity? As angry as I am at this situation and the probably thousands others like it, I know the blame falls on the adults. We failed these kids and we will continue to fail ourselves if we don't start finding ways to instill the things that really matter into our kids. These young girl's self-worth never should have been called into question nor should it have ever been tied into whether or not some boy liked them. They should have been feeling good about themselves and their choices based on positive feedback from their parents and communities. A well-rounded, well-raised girl doesn't need to define herself by what boy likes her. We should have told them that.